Summary of Essence of Shibari: Kinbaku and Japanese Rope Bondage by Shin Nawakari

Welcome to the wild and intricate world of Shibari, where ropes are not just for tying up packages! In Essence of Shibari: Kinbaku and Japanese Rope Bondage, Shin Nawakari pulls no punches (or ropes, for that matter) in unraveling the art of this traditional Japanese pastime. So, buckle up-if you think you know what bondage is, you might want to reconsider after this!

First off, let's get one thing straight: Shibari is a lot more than just a painful version of a game of Twister. This book dives headfirst into the aesthetics and philosophy behind Japanese rope bondage, which can be traced back to the feudal era when it was more about capturing prisoners than having fun at parties. However, Nawakari shows us that in the modern context, it's all about the art, trust, and some seriously impressive skills. Spoiler alert: It's more about the journey than the destination!

Nawakari does a fantastic job of exploring the kinbaku aspect, which translates to "tight binding." Yes, that sounds a bit ominous, but trust-it's also reflected in elegant patterns and intricate designs. The author takes us through various techniques, emphasizing not just the physical act of binding, but the emotional connection developed between the participants. Prepare to roll your eyes, because we're entering the "it's not about the destination, it's about the journey" territory-the bonding experience becomes a key theme.

Now, let's talk about safety-because you don't want to end up in an episode of "What Not to Do While Tied Up." Nawakari encourages readers to focus on consent and communication, which is great advice whether you're roping someone up or just trying to borrow a pencil from a classmate. He highlights the importance of discussing boundaries and expectations upfront. So, no surprise "hey, let's try something wild" moments here!

The book features a range of knot techniques so good they'd make a sailor proud. From basic knots that even your grandma could master to more advanced ties that require the dexterity of a spider monkey, Nawakari ensures that you'll be busy for quite a while. Expect detailed illustrations, complete with commentary that reminds you when you inevitably mess up, it's part of the learning process.

And just in case you thought it was all about serious skill, Nawakari brings in a touch of humor and playful banter, reinforcing that Shibari doesn't have to be all seriousness. Bondage can be fun, too! Who knew that knots could lead to laughter?

A brief note on the aesthetics: there's a visual component to Shibari that is deeply tied to Japanese culture. The techniques are meant to create beautiful patterns that are both visually stunning and symbolize the connection between bound and binder. It's like the art of origami, but on a much, much more interesting scale-trust me, your arts and crafts teacher never suggested this!

In summary, Essence of Shibari isn't just a manual for how to tie knots (although there's more than enough of that). It's a philosophical exploration of trust, intimacy, and self-expression that invites you to tighten your skills (pun intended) while also liberating you from societal norms. Whether you're just curious or looking to dive headfirst into the world of Shibari, this book is your go-to guide. Now, go ahead and impress your friends with your newfound knowledge of Japanese rope bondage-just be sure to ask for consent first!

Maddie Page

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